Why?
Why is it that the male hormone testosterone decreases with age?
Why is it that muscle mass dwindles with age?
Why do the sexual drive muscles slow down with age?
Why do we lose those body parts – hair, muscles, skin tone – that we use to attract people physically?
“Why does the ability to consume alcohol or lime all night decrease with age?)
Is this decline by divine design to send humans a distinct message about the non-essentials and essentials of human living?
Is sexuality primarily about physical features or sexual performance? If so, then why does our ability to be sexually active diminish with age?
Are we being invited into a more expanded view of sexuality? Or, to change our prescriptive glasses to see the truth about sexuality?
Recently, I was introduced to the concept of the Circles of Sexuality – six distinct yet related circles of sexuality.
- Sensuality: Awareness and feeling of my body, how it looks, feels, what it can do and the pleasure it offers me.
- Intimacy: The need to be close to somebody and the ability to accept the closeness in return.
- Sexual orientation and Gender identity: How do I understand myself sexually; to whom am I attracted; what is my sense of being a woman or man.
- Sexual health and reproduction: My capacity to reproduce, and my behaviour and attitudes that support good sexual health and enjoyment.
- Sexual behaviour and practices: What I do with my body parts!
- Sexual power and agency. How do I relate with myself and others sexually?
- The Power within: My self-worth and self-understanding of my sexual preferences and values. These nourish a good sexual well-being and good health.
- The Power to influence: What do I consent to and/or decline?
- Power over others: Do I use sex to manipulate, control, or harm other people?
If we change our sexuality eyeglasses, perhaps we will develop healthier relationships with our bodies and (Delete “relationships”) with each other.
I invite your thoughts.
Beloved Reflections 