There is conversation, conversation, and conversation.
Recently, I observed a conversation between Youthful Exuberance and Experiential Wisdom.
To what can I liken the conversation?
It was like a tug-o-war game, both sides throwing their mental muscles to pull the other side over.
It was like a seesaw. When each side spoke the weight of their argument lifted uncontrollably the other side.
Yet, each side has valid points.
Youthful Exuberance is . . .
. . . visionary.
. . . enthusiastic reformer.
. . . excellent analytical skills.
. . . technologically savvy.
. . . rapid river flowing ideas.
. . . fasting moving risk taker.
Experiential Wisdom is. . .
. . . historically knowledgeable.
. . . cautiously optimistic.
. . . perceptive.
. . . technologically challenged.
. . .water pond like ideas.
. . .calculating risk taker.
At the end of the conversation, there are no winners. Both sides depart without winning. Losing the value of each other’s worth.
To what can I liken the way forward for both?
While writing this reflection, I saw two barble doves intimately perched side by side on a fence. Both taking terms using their beaks to clean each other’s feathers.
This action of these two birds reminds me of a term called “Transformational Conversation”. Each side engages in conversation to learn what they do not know. The field of communication generally agrees to these six steps to transformational conversation:
- Listen to persons’ passion and ideas. Ask them to tell their story. …
- Repeat the ideas back to them.
- Affirm their hopes and dreams.
- Ask the question, “What’s the next step?
- Establish a date for follow up.
- Ask, “How can I help to achieve your dreams?” .
If Youthful Exuberance and Experiential Wisdom engage in transformational conversation, the results would be productively and creatively volcanic.
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Fr. Chambers you are on a roll today. This is another excellent post. Thanks for sharing.